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my friend wants to abord disabled child!

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Alicia
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registered since: 07/07/2009
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hi

i am devastated. a friend of mine got to know that her unborn child will be born with down syndrome. she didnt even think for a second before she decided to abort the child. she says that a life with disabiliy is no life and that she will only act in the best terms for the child by aborting it!!! i dont know if i should be angry or sad or...
I find her a terrrible coward and im sure that she dosent have the best in mind for the child but only for her. she dosent want to have a "defective" child!

What can I do to make her clear that this child will have a great life to and that she cant deside wether a life is worth it or worthless. Please help me to save this child!

Written on: 07/06/2011 [10:14]
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Cho
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Hi Alicia

I have a child with disability too myself. It was / sometimes still is but it was always the right thing to keep her!
I see it the same way as you do: People who abort their disabled child because "it wouldnt have a real life", are f*** cowards and bad people! My child is sometimes a big challenge but I feel every moment in my life that she is a gift.
I find it ok when a woman says "I cant do this, i am not strong enough." but saying they do it for the best of the child, they lie, they just dont want to addmit that they are selfish.
your friend cant deside if the child is allowed to have a life. address your pastor. maybe he can change her opinion.

All the best
Written on: 07/06/2011 [11:15]
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vermontsavant
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patriciaebauer.com has a lot off info about downs syndrome and other trisomy related disorders.info on pre natal testing and abortion.abortion rates are high for all trisomy related disorders. but the website also has a lot of positive story's about downs as well that could give your friend hope and insperation.patricia bauer has 2 childen with downs.if she saw the newest recourses out there for downs she might change her mind

i drive limousines slowly on the driveway on saturdays
Written on: 07/06/2011 [15:15]
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deafMami
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Hi Alicia

Sorry, my english is not so good.
It is horrible to abort a child just because it is disabled. down syndrome is not so severe anymore as 30 years ago where they became only 12 years old and they were diskriminated from others.
i have too deaf children and it was very hard vor me at the beginning, but I am happy that I keeped them because they have a great life and they are happy!

I hope you can tell your friends that disability is not so grave any more to day.

Greetings,
Laure



Ich bin ein hörendes Mami von zwei gehörlosen Teenager.
Written on: 10/06/2011 [16:37]
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stikkYnout
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And what says the father-to-be? Does he want to keep the child? It's his desicion too after all!
Written on: 10/06/2011 [16:40]
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